love - and not?

many types of pairing - genetic, spiritual, intellectual, authority, look, father type, mother type, gratification, master-slave, wealth, .......

genetic - you marry for the reason of getting good genes from your partner to complement your short-comings. somehow the brain knows who your partner would be when you meet one. normally, love at first sight. the feeling is intense.... can it last for the whole life, very much in doubt. like drinking strong coffee, butterflies in the stomach, whirl-winds in the head.... and it goes down quickly enough to go for another round.....

spiritual - you are not attracted by her/his physical qualities, but slowly you found from her/him a side that brings you into your own inner fondness of her. normally, not love at first sight, but rather tea-sipping kind of love, the more cups you drink, the taste gets better and better..... can it last? yes, but sometimes, not very intense, just like drinking tea..... not as potent as coffee... but lingers longer in taste.

intellectual - especially for the gal to fall in love with a man who's intellectually powerful. but if the man bears down on her after marriage, she may find him too proud to bear with, will find faults with him.... and let go at him when there's chance.

authority - gals view heroes or people in power favorably - gene factor. but if the man did not keep up his image as authoritative as before marriage, the gal will take advantage of the situation and climb over his head.

look - very superficial criteria due to gene factor, but may likely produce beautiful off-springs.... may not last long due to other qualities not up to scratch.

father type - if the man continues to be father-like.... can last

mother type - same as father type.

gratification - marry because your partner has help you greatly, and as form of saying thank you, you marry him/her..... you start to pay back to what you own him/her, they day you marry.... and soon, you think you have clear your debt, then off you go....

master-slave - marriage by force.....

wealth - like elin marrying to tiger..... when he's in trouble, she's so happy that she's holding his wallet tight.



there's this kind of love, with little bit of everything... like you find your soul mate, where you use your minds to make love, while your organs join to each other's passionately..... can't get enough of it.



alone, so pityful......